Time to Move On….

Yes, its to time to move on when things really dont work for you. At least those things supposed to happen if not the things you desire. If your damn waiting for the thing to happen and if it tests your patience? what to do? . Sometimes I feel it is the stupidity of me in handling the things. What I feel is philosophy is very nice to listen and help us getting up if you are fallen. But the fact is you cannot follow the same philosophy when you are put under test to the same situation. Sometimes I suspect whether philosophy has real meaning to it if it is not implemented properly. Forgetting about the philosophy for a while now, lets discuss about moving on. If you program your mind to something and the input is in such a fashion that it cannot be handled, just imagine what happens to a software program..it simply dumps. Similar thing happens to our mind if programmed. But how to program the mind in such a fashion that every situation is handled in switch case. We should make sure there shuld not be any while or for loops which makes you busy but end up doing nothing. if presence of them is inevitable dont forget to put a break statement till the program moves smoothly to exit. The policy I am following is to divert mind in different directions. Call a friend, chat with a friend…read some article, watch some pics. When I do these things literally I don’t feel that I am frustrated. When I tell my frustration or disappointment to someone..i fell relaxed after sometime. If I keep it to myself it gets more inside and starts hurting. No other way … its time to move.

 

Emotional Attachment

Emotional quotient is little high for Indians. We will get emotionally attached easily to any thing in the world. Personally I feel being emotional to everything causes little damage. My room mate says…Indians gets attached emotionally very quickly  even to their pet dogs, cars.  They feel emotional or sometimes sentimental in selling their old car or when they lose their pet dog. I dont say one should not be emotional but should not be carried away with that.  By emotionally attached to something, You feel sad, disappointed when that ’something’ leaves you. Love anything but dont get too close to something that makes you feel unhappy without it. Basically its just your state of mind that plays this. After all the ultimate goal of everyone’s life is to be happy every moment. Why to accept things that makes you unhappy. We are the only passenger for our life journey. Nobody shares our destination either.  There is no point in being emotionally attached to someone or something. I wont prevent you if you are happy by being emotionally attached. But if not, dont lose single moment by not being happy.

Personally I am very sensitive guy and I used to attach to everyone whoever comes in my life and to things whatever I buy. I used to feel disappointed when they leave me and preventing the situation to happen. But later after so many such things happening in life I became observant and derived that emotional attachment is causing some amount of damage to me.  So why should I have a mindset that is making me unhappy. I decided to change as soon as I observed people who are happy without it. So love but not attach and be inseparable. Ultimately we are our saviors of our very own single life. This is not selfishness but self respect. Still some qualities come by birth and perish by death,  but who knows give it a try!!

 

Insult your intelligence

I became quite observant these days about the basic elements that might make us unhappy and egoist. One of them that I am going to write down now is about misunderstanding. Sometimes we assume that something has happened because of somebody by just blindly and readily listening to our (intelligence) mind’s conclusion. This starts enmity with the other person virtually. We will have that in mind and we act accordingly with that person. This goes on and on ….and makes you unhappy and lead to vulnerable relationships. So before readily listening to your intelligence, if you just confirm that “why that has happened” you can avoid all the conflicts. So before assuming about any thing please confirm why something has happened before jumping in to conclusions. Misunderstanding is a result of your intelligence sometimes.

First time I am facing problem here and I could not able to put flow of my thoughts about this topic in to the blog. I will come back again in a different post to explain why we have to insult our intelligence :-)

 

Secret of Happiness

I have observed a few things from the past few days. Those things gave me real happiness and ultimate satisfaction. You are wrong if you guess its love or *** or money. I have not got the same amount of satisfaction or soul fullfillness even after I have got what I have desired. Dont want to drag ……….the point I am making here is helping an unknown person gave me ultimate satisfaction. The unknown person must be badly in need of some help and if you give ur helping hand , its really great experience. The word unknown I elevated here because for known persons like friends, family, colleagues I have not got that much happiness. Helping known persons might include the expectations in return later. This might be one of the reasons why I could not satisfy.  (Of course this reason does not hold valid for me)
Few days after I bought my pulsar, I was eating sandwich on the road side around late evening. One very old man came pushing his auto and stopped near by my side. It looked like his diesel in auto got over. He is watching here and there not knowing what to do. He asked some persons to drop him to petrol bunk. People rejected because of his weird attire like lengthy beard, torn clothes…etc etc. When I completed my sandwich, he asked me can you get me to petrol bunk? I was skeptical initially but later I agreed as the petrol bunk is few distance away. I dropped him and waited for him till he fill the petrol in his bottle and again I dropped him back at the place where his auto was parked. He is very old men and I am very much pleased with the way he asked me initially and later felt very happy after I helped him to get his job done. I dont know I felt a different amount of happiness which I have not been experienced before.
It might be a small help but I have realized that helping other person will give you ultimate happiness. So buddies…keep helping…..

 

Soul Curry

Dont get bewildered by the title. This is the name of the article which comes every sunday in TOI LIFE. Every week the real happenings in once life are given here. Whoever reads this will definitely be moved by the plight of the narrator. Basically what is given in the soul curry is: a person narrates tough times in his/her life and how did they get on and how well they dealt with the situation to move on. I am sure that if somebody reads this article once, one will feel that their problems are nothing. In last weeks article , one female was explaining that she lost 2/3 part of the body in an accident. She also lost her relatives in the accident. Her husband is the only source to get on with the life. After few years he also expired. Imagine her position where there is nobody to take care of her and she cannot take of herself. After reading all her story to the point how she is living today, my opinion about what I feel as a problem and difficulty has changed. What I would feel as a problem is not a problem at all if I compare mine with the problems that many people in the world are facing. I retrospected myself that my disappointment with the small issues I have at the current moment is nothing and unnecessary. Move On should be everyone’s ultimate philosophy. This reminds me the Zen way of living which says that, like a stream flowing down the mountain that finds its own path is finding your own way. If you try to block the stream or resist it, it just goes around without a pause and it will finds its own way. This way is like a fallen leaf moving along with the stream. If you allow the stream to carry you, its strength become yours, you are one with nature , without clinging, without attachment leaving the past behind, living in this moment.

 

Power of Anticipation

On the other day, I was reading sunday TOI as I do every week end and came across an interesting article in LIFE. Life is a supplement which comes on every sunday. It portrays philosophy in a decent way. If you are really philosophical or spiritual, I suggest you to go through it. Coming to the point…………….The article I was talking about gave a beautiful line which made me write this blog. The line goes like this …”The state of anticipation gives you more happiness than actual realization” Is it not true???

I am very fond of boarding a flight and I want just experience it once. I am more happy dreaming about it before its actually realized. But once I boarded once and was very happy ofcourse. From then onward the thought of it completely vanished and it was not there at all. But compared to the actual realization, anticipating that thing made me more happy. So the anticipation can be anything…..be it a crush on a pretty girl, be it a desire to climb ur job ladder, be you owning a car, getting married………………Another example is that I am very fond of learning and driving car. I would actually enjoy If I see somebody driving a swanky car on the road. I am so happy that I wish that I love to do on some day. But recently I have learned car driving and drove one of my frds car. The happiness which was before has gone. I am just ignoring whatever car I see on the road. In some sense its sometimes good if you are out of something than in it. In fact, the anxiety and curiosity that makes you very happy. When the thing is actually realised, the joy is actually disappeared. So be aware of the things that are making you feel happy. So dont get upset if you dont get what you anticipate. The ultimate happiness is in anticipation. Did you not experience this? I say, the happiness is in actual journey not in reaching or accomplishing goal. I am not contradicting anything here. If you desire for anything, its not wrong at all. But in case if you dont get it, just enjoy the thought of anticipation. Sounding stupid…..ignore it…I was expressing my comments on that article which are factually real. I may not express the real sense due to my poor expressive skills. But readers….you are smart , you might have got the essence.

 

New Year

Another year entered in to its execution on the platform called life. Old year left leaving behind so many bad, good and sweet memories that lasts for ever. What more can we do other than acting according to time. In the same way I have celebrated new year and gave a warm welcome in to this world just as all. Its just a habit to rethink about the old year before entering in to the dawn of another year. The year that passed away gave me a job to survive and to gave an opportunity to apply my knowledge which keeps on updating since childhood. Left IIT which gave me a beautiful life that can remain in my memory for the rest of my life. Though bad memories still chase us its good to remember good ones for once to thrive. Important thing is that every year we have been encountering new friends and departed from old friends. We have been accumulating like this since our birth. It is also an great experience, in this way we tend to meet so many people with different ideas, tastes, interests, opinions and we are exposed to so many unknown things in the world. So many events happen in our life whether good or bad but we should be in a position to accept everything rather preparing mindset to refuse something. The quality of mind which is in a position to accept everything as it is that happens in life is mandatory for every human being. Those events will happen even if you are present or absent in this world. You are just an witness and actor to the happening events. So I discourage people refusing things that happen in life. Hmm…little bit philosophy ……….If you are prepared with this mind set every year which comes and goes will leave you a different experience. Setting mind for some goals is important but preparing mind for anything is equally important. So set your goals, resolutions and rock this new year.

Have a great days ahead. Happy New Year-2008.

 

Stop Hating, liking and disliking……….

Hey..I dont like him….I hate him….I hate the way he/she talks..hating …hating these are so common in everyone’s life. Someway, somehow, somewhere they hate something or someone. We start hating the other person if we dont like his actions, talk or whatever he has been doing. So we had a picture in mind that how everything should be? If the other person does not behave according to what you like…hating starts. If the thing does not work in you way you start hating taht. This is the funda behind hating. Our mind is programmed over a time what is right and what is wrong? We are not mature enough to edit our knowledge. So whatever the other person does falls in your wrong list of things or you dont like..you start hating. But look from a broader view. The same thing holds good for whatever things happen to you in life. When you have pre-defined set of things which you like and dont dislike, unhappiness is inevitable. Its better that your mind should be software rather than hardware. Stop hating, liking and disliking but experience whatever the things may be and however the things may be. If sorrow happens in your life dont dislike it but experience it. There is a great Zen saying which states that ” Feel the sorrow inside your heart, draw energy from the eastern rising sun and the warrior prepares a cup of tea”. What it means is : Feel the sorrow whatever you have inside your heart but dont get stuck or disappointed with the state you are in and get up, fill up your soul with fresh energy like how sun rises everyday. But in doing all these things dont miss small small things. The warrior has to face a war where he might lose his life in serving for his country but he is preparing and not missing his cup of tea. Understand the saying deeply and feel, experience everything……….

 

Next Generation

Yesterday I was happy when I heard the news that my closest friend is going to become father. He was my classmate in bachelors and he got married 5 months back. So at least in my friends circle, I can say the next generation is out. I am just wondering how the days are passing. I still remember those childhood days…..hmmm…nostalgia. Dont want to bore the readers. Also I heard so many friends are already on the track of getting married. So the days are very near where we will see the next youthful generation. I have spent 24 years of life in academic education and a few months old in corporate life. Half of the life spent in studying and other half in handling responsibilities. Where is the self enjoyment? Where are we heading? These are the questions which bother me often. The biggest impending mandatory custom is marriage. Somehow the interest for marriage which I have 2 years back is slowly getting faded. I am in a state of fear when somebody talks about marriage before me. After marriage I think the total mind set of an individual might change. Forgetting a few months of enjoyment with spouse, the rest of the life is devoted to family. Where is the time where we are doing something that satisfy the real human being inside you. Just passing among the milestones (study, job, marriage , children….) that are already fixed on your life track I am just a witness to the things happening. Me, we, I, ours………this the world so far. I have a long desire to do something for the society. I can frankly say that I have not spent enough bucks or service intentionally for the society except sympathizing. We have been taking so many things from it and forgetting to contribute to its welfare.  I can remember a wonderful line from telugu lyricist saying RUNAM TEERCHU TARUNAM VASTEY TAPPINCHUKU POTUNNAVA (You are just escaping when the time has arrived for you to  pay back to the society).  Poor translation…..got the essence?…go ahead.   Everybody feels, sympathizes it but that is not needed at all. It might satisfy your human side but leads no where. Just waiting…..what can I do to kill the selfishness and devote for the well being of my society. I am really sure that this will happen so soon as I am already committed to do it. After my self got satisfied I will go to the rest of the routine life trap where I end up as usual as all.

Yeah….dont use logic….dont comment ….dont feel bore…this is my blog I have rights to write whatever I can. It might start somewhere and end up somewhere else. Just translating the flow of thoughts in to English letters on a platform called blog. Just motivating myself to contribute for the good deed.

 

OM Shanti OM………………..

Another blockbuster from farahkhan made theaters in pune crowded even on week-days. Me and my room mate could not get tickets even on wednesday.  Finally we got on sunday to watch the movie.  I did not feel bored except for a couple of scenes in the second-half. Overall my rating is above average. Deepika padukone attracted a lot for the moments she appeared on the screen.  I could not prevent myself in praising this girl. Innocence, beauty, performance……..blended in to deepika which made my head unturned while she was on screen.  She might have already heart throbbed  so many people.  Coming to Sharukh …….his action undoubtedly amazing. I am not here to write a review as there people else where to jot upon the movie. One dialogue that caught my attention was…………Every life should have a happy ending like a movie. If the happiness is not there, the movie is yet to complete. I tried explaining in the way whatever I can with my mediocre english. In hindi it stands worth if you hear. English experts can give their true explanation in the comments of this post.